If you could have one wish for your daughters, in addition to their salvation, what would it be?
Do you pray for a long life with good health?
That the Lord is preparing the heart of a young Christian man that will love and adore her?
That she has a family of her own?
That she is happy and fulfilled?
My wish, for my girls, is that they have their identity strongly rooted in Christ all the days of their lives.You see them in that picture.They love the person God made them to be. They don’t have doubts or insecurities. They are princesses of the Mighty King. Getting ready for ballet they were twirling and singing. With great bravado, they were shouting out “You are beautiful and I love you” to themselves in the mirror. There is an absence of insecurity. They don’t see flaws. No internal voice echos negativity. They see the beauty of God’s creation. This innocence reminds me of the garden of Eden, before the fall
How much I want to protect their hearts and preserve that innocence. How much the world wants to tear it apart.
Little by little as they grow, they’ll be bombarded in subtle and not so subtle ways with billboards, airbrushed photos, critical comments and comparisons.
When we got to ballet that day, my three-year-old with her tiara in place informed her teacher, “You know I’m a real princess, because my Daddy says so.”
Her teacher replied, “You have a very smart Daddy.”
We all have a Daddy whose words of wisdom speak this same amazing truth. Our Heavenly Father who calls us His princess, His beloved. He is enthralled by our beauty.
“The king is enthralled by your beauty;
honor him, for he is your lord.”
Have you felt this, known this all the days of your life? I know I haven’t. The enemy has whispered, and some days screamed in my ear voices of inadequacy and insecurity. I believe it’s one of the strongest ways he tries to cripple us as women. Because those negative voices can become so ingrained, so instinctual we don’t even realize they’re a lie anymore.
When we catch ourselves or our daughters letting the negative thoughts creep in, we literally have to STOP and recognize that we’re criticizing the Almighty God who formed us.
I want to be pro-active for my daughters and consciously fight the enemy with the truth of God’s word. Every chance I get, teaching them, leading by example, and reaffirming that their identity is in Christ and Christ alone. I pray they can grasp at an early age that Christ’s Holy Spirit is within them and that they have His power and strength to draw upon. But with this, comes a big responsibility to treat our bodies with respect, to be modest and pure because our body doesn’t belong to us, it is a home for God’s Holy Spirit.
“Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.”
And I pray that they see themselves in the mirror of God’s eyes. Like a potter with clay, he formed every part of them by His mighty hand. He made them unique and special and has a divine purpose for their lives.
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful,”
I don’t profess to have this all figured out and know I’m just beginning this journey as a mother of daughters. I will daily get on my knees and ask for the Lord’s guidance in protecting and guiding these precious gifts He has entrusted to me and my husband.It is my prayer that all women can know the love of the Lord and can guard our hearts and minds, knowing the truth of how special each of us are to Him
“He will rejoice over you with gladness.”
**Further Resources: At this age we like using the devotional “His Little Princess” with our girls. The version for women “His Princess” is great as well. I also recently came across a homeschool program, that even though we don’t currently homeschool I want to look into using at some point. It is called “Who Am I? (And What Am I Doing Here?).” The description says it’s a Biblical Worldview of Self Image by John Hay & David Webb.
I’d love to open this up to comments for resources you’ve found for teaching God’s word and helping it resonate in your daughter’s lives.